Have you run into someone who you haven't seen in years, and when they see you they say, “ Wow, you have been coming to mind lately” That happened to me this week. I was out with my Mom and I knew that we were going to see some folks that I had not seen for a very long time, but they had no idea that I was going to be there. I get there and this friend of mine was so surprised to see me and then he said, “you have been on my mind off and on for the last 3 weeks, wow that is so strange...and now you are here.” Or , my all time favourite is when you call a friend or family member and they say, “ I was just about to call you. It is not strange, well, not for me. I think it is about our energy and our energetic vibration.
So let us start at the beginning. We are energy.
All energy vibrates at a frequency. You will hear energy workers talk about raising your vibration. As we raise our vibration, we raise the frequency of our vibration. This is called ascension. As energy workers, like myself, this is our goal. When we meditate or do yoga, we are helping to raise our vibration. When we do positive things in our life, like eat clean foods, stay away from drama and toxic relationships and connect with our most authentic self we are raising our vibration.
So what the heck has that got to do with thinking about someone? Well, if we as energy are vibrating at a certain frequency and our friend is too, then we are connected by that frequency. We are energetically connecting with each other and we are thinking of the other person. After all, it really is a person's energy that attracts us to them.
So was I sending energy out to my friend since I knew I was going to see him and the result was that thoughts of me came to his mind? Or were we connecting energetically which resulted in him thinking of me? Either way, we are reconnecting with each other.
And that in it's self is wonderful.
So is it just me or do we all have days when we just want to pitch everything out? Part of me would love to rent one of these big garbage bins and turf everything. Is that wrong? The environmentalist in me wants to recycle and donate as much as we can...but oh..some days....
I know spring is coming when I get these urges to throw everything away. I need to clear the air and the stale energy in our house. Of the two of us, I am the one most likely to throw things away. My husband, however is not good with change and will look at something and say, "I might be able to use this so I better keep it." This is our fear of not having enough, or fear of lack. We are fearful that when we do need that very thing, that we will not be able to buy it, or replace it. That just is not true. If you have not used that item in the 10 years we have lived in this house, then you never will. The unfinished projects that hover around can be exhausting. Clutter becomes daunting and steals your energy. Stagnate energy becomes physically tiresome and emotionally heavy to the point you don't know where to even start. I will admit I am a dumper. I will take complete ownership of that behavior. I dump things creating plies with the intention that I will deal with it later. But then something else takes my attention and the plies grow. And then we feel overwhelmed by the clutter. It is a vicious cycle. It holds us back from our purpose and weighs us down .
If we start simple it can be manageable. Take one of those cardboard boxes you have just in case you need one, and write Donations on it. Take it to your closet and put 5 items in there that are in good condition that you have not worn in a year. Or take your box into the kitchen and sort through one cupboard. You will be amazed how quickly you can fill that box up. They key is to give yourself permission to release those things that no longer serve you. We hold onto things, relationships, and emotions because as much as they may drain us energetically, they are comfortable and easy. When we stay in a holding pattern, changing nothing, not moving forward, we actually are moving backwards. Releasing that stale energy is hard at first. But here's the thing, as soon as you release old useless energy you have made way for the new energy. Just like opening the windows and airing out the house. You do need to take that box when it is full to a second hand shop. Don't just pile the stale energy into a box and give it a fancy title of donations and not follow through. This is a great way to serve others by re-purposing perfectly good items.
Now we have started to create energy as we release that which no longer serves us. Take that recycled energy and clear more clutter. The material clutter in our home is a manifestation of the energetic and emotional clutter we carry with us. As you let the clutter go, you are recycling that old stagnate energy into something you can use and into something that will serve you.
So here is my challenge. Fill a garbage bag, a donation box and a recycle box this week. Clear out the garbage that is weighing you down. Be bold and ask for help if you need help. Engage everyone in the house in this activity. Releasing all that clutter may just free you up to do something fun with all that new energy you found. Better still it will help you clean out another drawer or closet next week. I started with my desk, which I am now sitting at writing this entry. There is still work to do, but I am getting there.
Well if you will excuse me, I have more clutter to clear out; I have lots of new energy to make space for.
Valentine's Day has me thinking about love, but not in the way you might think. Love can be confusing, messy and complicated. Love has been used for centuries as tool to control and manipulate people and has become a commodity. Disney taught us as young girls to aspire to an unattainable level of romantic love. Stories of perverse physical love are common in the books we read and the movies we watch. But none of that is what love, pure love is about. I have worked in cards shops and flower shops for over 25 years, and I can tell you,that these industries have made our expressions of love something to be bought and sold. I remember the excitement of Valentines Day in grade school. Decorating a box to put on our desk so that our classmates could go around depositing the corny little valentines we had bought at the store. And then the anticipation of opening that box to see who was sweet on us.
We as a society are so focused on romantic love, and sexual love. But for me, none of this is what love is about. Regardless of what religion you believe or not, we are here to love. We are here to give love and to be loved. This is the meaning of life. Love is the one thing we all, as humans, have to give freely and yet we choose to withhold love from ourselves and others everyday. Love can change our life and can change the world.
As a healer, I believe love is vital. We need to love ourselves first and foremost. When we love our self, we allow our self to release all the crap we are holding onto, all the crap that is weighing us down, all the crap that is getting in our way of healing our life. Somewhere, along the way society decided that we have a limited amount of love to give and that giving our self love first was selfish. Love is infinite. Our heart is a muscle and like every other muscle in our body it needs to be used, to be exercised. Falling in love with our self does not limit the love we have, instead it allows our heart to swell and grow, producing even more love. When we love our self, we take better care of our body and soul, we re-evaluate our boundaries and enforce those boundaries, and place love in every situation. Self love and respect go hand in hand and can be life changing. We all know people who don't love or even like themselves. These are people who we see being used and abused by others who coincidentally don't love themselves either. Being told we are not lovable is hurtful and the damage can be with us for a lifetime unless we learn to love our self. Self love begins when we let go of the judgement and criticism offered by others and choose to accept our self as we are, scars and all. We all carry baggage, but we can choose to put those bags down, and be gentle with our heart, our soul. Giving yourself the love you so freely give to others is a tremendous gift that we all deserve.
So say we have taken the time to give our self love and our life starts to fill up with joy and love, then what? Then it is time to give that love to others. This is pure love. This is the love that transforms our life and the lives of those we give love to unconditionally. But how? How do I open my heart and share that love? There are lots of different ways. One of my favourite ways to share love is through meditation. Now I know there are many if you saying, " I can't meditate" Let's not make it complicated. It can be as simple as sitting quietly and focusing on your soul's heart or your energetic heart. Allow any walls to come down, or locks to be opened. Then allow the light of your heart space to shine. Envision the light growing and shining brightly. Filling your whole being with this light is the next step. Giving ourselves all our love is a wonderful feeling and so beneficial. We then want to watch that light grow so that it expands beyond us, filling the space around us totally and completely. Keep encouraging the love light to grow and expand. From there you can send the love to a person, place or even fill the world with your love. This practice is very powerful when you do this in a group. There are people around the world that organize this kind of meditation sending love all over the world. It is all about intention. Even though this sounds simple, it can make a difference.
Other ways to share our love can be equally as simple and is something we can do everyday. It can be as simple as smiling at a stranger. We live our lives insulated from human interaction today. We use technology to communicate and as a result we can become isolated. I was in the grocery store the other day and it was crazy busy. The cashiers were swamped and people were getting crabby. So I decided to share some love and make the experience better for all of us. I started to chat with the gentleman behind me. We had a little laugh and you could see others in the line up behind us reacting. People started to connect and smile. When it was my turn I sent some love to my cashier, human to human. You could see her shoulders lower and we smiled at each other chatting as she processed my order. It was subtle, but it made her day better and made everyone else behind me a little kinder and less stressed by the whole situation. We never know what has gone on during the day or what pain or grief strangers are carrying with them. A little love in the form of a smile maybe all they need to help them get through their day. And when they smile back, well that is just such a lovely feeling.
So for Valentine's Day I would like to suggest an experiment. How about we give love to our self and to those around us. And let us do this for more than just February 14th. Let us try it for the week or the rest of the month. Do something nice for yourself each day. Maybe you need to by yourself a flower or two, or take a couple of flowers to a friend or co-worker who needs some love. Paying for a stranger's coffee in the drive through or taking a coffee to someone who you appreciate is a loving action. Send a card in the mail or pick up the phone and talk to a friend who you miss, or better still, call your parents. Holding the door for the person behind you and smiling at people you meet along your day does make a difference. See how many people you can touch with your heart. And see how giving that love freely, without a single expectation transforms your day, week, your life. The best part is that they will be touched by your kindness and they will most likely pass the love along to someone else. Love is free, love is easy and we all need more love in our life.
So, I send you much love today and hope that you will Bee my Valentine.