Have you run into someone who you haven't seen in years, and when they see you they say, “ Wow, you have been coming to mind lately” That happened to me this week. I was out with my Mom and I knew that we were going to see some folks that I had not seen for a very long time, but they had no idea that I was going to be there. I get there and this friend of mine was so surprised to see me and then he said, “you have been on my mind off and on for the last 3 weeks, wow that is so strange...and now you are here.” Or , my all time favourite is when you call a friend or family member and they say, “ I was just about to call you. It is not strange, well, not for me. I think it is about our energy and our energetic vibration.
So let us start at the beginning. We are energy.
All energy vibrates at a frequency. You will hear energy workers talk about raising your vibration. As we raise our vibration, we raise the frequency of our vibration. This is called ascension. As energy workers, like myself, this is our goal. When we meditate or do yoga, we are helping to raise our vibration. When we do positive things in our life, like eat clean foods, stay away from drama and toxic relationships and connect with our most authentic self we are raising our vibration.
So what the heck has that got to do with thinking about someone? Well, if we as energy are vibrating at a certain frequency and our friend is too, then we are connected by that frequency. We are energetically connecting with each other and we are thinking of the other person. After all, it really is a person's energy that attracts us to them.
So was I sending energy out to my friend since I knew I was going to see him and the result was that thoughts of me came to his mind? Or were we connecting energetically which resulted in him thinking of me? Either way, we are reconnecting with each other.
And that in it's self is wonderful.
So is it just me or do we all have days when we just want to pitch everything out? Part of me would love to rent one of these big garbage bins and turf everything. Is that wrong? The environmentalist in me wants to recycle and donate as much as we can...but oh..some days....
I know spring is coming when I get these urges to throw everything away. I need to clear the air and the stale energy in our house. Of the two of us, I am the one most likely to throw things away. My husband, however is not good with change and will look at something and say, "I might be able to use this so I better keep it." This is our fear of not having enough, or fear of lack. We are fearful that when we do need that very thing, that we will not be able to buy it, or replace it. That just is not true. If you have not used that item in the 10 years we have lived in this house, then you never will. The unfinished projects that hover around can be exhausting. Clutter becomes daunting and steals your energy. Stagnate energy becomes physically tiresome and emotionally heavy to the point you don't know where to even start. I will admit I am a dumper. I will take complete ownership of that behavior. I dump things creating plies with the intention that I will deal with it later. But then something else takes my attention and the plies grow. And then we feel overwhelmed by the clutter. It is a vicious cycle. It holds us back from our purpose and weighs us down .
If we start simple it can be manageable. Take one of those cardboard boxes you have just in case you need one, and write Donations on it. Take it to your closet and put 5 items in there that are in good condition that you have not worn in a year. Or take your box into the kitchen and sort through one cupboard. You will be amazed how quickly you can fill that box up. They key is to give yourself permission to release those things that no longer serve you. We hold onto things, relationships, and emotions because as much as they may drain us energetically, they are comfortable and easy. When we stay in a holding pattern, changing nothing, not moving forward, we actually are moving backwards. Releasing that stale energy is hard at first. But here's the thing, as soon as you release old useless energy you have made way for the new energy. Just like opening the windows and airing out the house. You do need to take that box when it is full to a second hand shop. Don't just pile the stale energy into a box and give it a fancy title of donations and not follow through. This is a great way to serve others by re-purposing perfectly good items.
Now we have started to create energy as we release that which no longer serves us. Take that recycled energy and clear more clutter. The material clutter in our home is a manifestation of the energetic and emotional clutter we carry with us. As you let the clutter go, you are recycling that old stagnate energy into something you can use and into something that will serve you.
So here is my challenge. Fill a garbage bag, a donation box and a recycle box this week. Clear out the garbage that is weighing you down. Be bold and ask for help if you need help. Engage everyone in the house in this activity. Releasing all that clutter may just free you up to do something fun with all that new energy you found. Better still it will help you clean out another drawer or closet next week. I started with my desk, which I am now sitting at writing this entry. There is still work to do, but I am getting there.
Well if you will excuse me, I have more clutter to clear out; I have lots of new energy to make space for.
Valentine's Day has me thinking about love, but not in the way you might think. Love can be confusing, messy and complicated. Love has been used for centuries as tool to control and manipulate people and has become a commodity. Disney taught us as young girls to aspire to an unattainable level of romantic love. Stories of perverse physical love are common in the books we read and the movies we watch. But none of that is what love, pure love is about. I have worked in cards shops and flower shops for over 25 years, and I can tell you,that these industries have made our expressions of love something to be bought and sold. I remember the excitement of Valentines Day in grade school. Decorating a box to put on our desk so that our classmates could go around depositing the corny little valentines we had bought at the store. And then the anticipation of opening that box to see who was sweet on us.
We as a society are so focused on romantic love, and sexual love. But for me, none of this is what love is about. Regardless of what religion you believe or not, we are here to love. We are here to give love and to be loved. This is the meaning of life. Love is the one thing we all, as humans, have to give freely and yet we choose to withhold love from ourselves and others everyday. Love can change our life and can change the world.
As a healer, I believe love is vital. We need to love ourselves first and foremost. When we love our self, we allow our self to release all the crap we are holding onto, all the crap that is weighing us down, all the crap that is getting in our way of healing our life. Somewhere, along the way society decided that we have a limited amount of love to give and that giving our self love first was selfish. Love is infinite. Our heart is a muscle and like every other muscle in our body it needs to be used, to be exercised. Falling in love with our self does not limit the love we have, instead it allows our heart to swell and grow, producing even more love. When we love our self, we take better care of our body and soul, we re-evaluate our boundaries and enforce those boundaries, and place love in every situation. Self love and respect go hand in hand and can be life changing. We all know people who don't love or even like themselves. These are people who we see being used and abused by others who coincidentally don't love themselves either. Being told we are not lovable is hurtful and the damage can be with us for a lifetime unless we learn to love our self. Self love begins when we let go of the judgement and criticism offered by others and choose to accept our self as we are, scars and all. We all carry baggage, but we can choose to put those bags down, and be gentle with our heart, our soul. Giving yourself the love you so freely give to others is a tremendous gift that we all deserve.
So say we have taken the time to give our self love and our life starts to fill up with joy and love, then what? Then it is time to give that love to others. This is pure love. This is the love that transforms our life and the lives of those we give love to unconditionally. But how? How do I open my heart and share that love? There are lots of different ways. One of my favourite ways to share love is through meditation. Now I know there are many if you saying, " I can't meditate" Let's not make it complicated. It can be as simple as sitting quietly and focusing on your soul's heart or your energetic heart. Allow any walls to come down, or locks to be opened. Then allow the light of your heart space to shine. Envision the light growing and shining brightly. Filling your whole being with this light is the next step. Giving ourselves all our love is a wonderful feeling and so beneficial. We then want to watch that light grow so that it expands beyond us, filling the space around us totally and completely. Keep encouraging the love light to grow and expand. From there you can send the love to a person, place or even fill the world with your love. This practice is very powerful when you do this in a group. There are people around the world that organize this kind of meditation sending love all over the world. It is all about intention. Even though this sounds simple, it can make a difference.
Other ways to share our love can be equally as simple and is something we can do everyday. It can be as simple as smiling at a stranger. We live our lives insulated from human interaction today. We use technology to communicate and as a result we can become isolated. I was in the grocery store the other day and it was crazy busy. The cashiers were swamped and people were getting crabby. So I decided to share some love and make the experience better for all of us. I started to chat with the gentleman behind me. We had a little laugh and you could see others in the line up behind us reacting. People started to connect and smile. When it was my turn I sent some love to my cashier, human to human. You could see her shoulders lower and we smiled at each other chatting as she processed my order. It was subtle, but it made her day better and made everyone else behind me a little kinder and less stressed by the whole situation. We never know what has gone on during the day or what pain or grief strangers are carrying with them. A little love in the form of a smile maybe all they need to help them get through their day. And when they smile back, well that is just such a lovely feeling.
So for Valentine's Day I would like to suggest an experiment. How about we give love to our self and to those around us. And let us do this for more than just February 14th. Let us try it for the week or the rest of the month. Do something nice for yourself each day. Maybe you need to by yourself a flower or two, or take a couple of flowers to a friend or co-worker who needs some love. Paying for a stranger's coffee in the drive through or taking a coffee to someone who you appreciate is a loving action. Send a card in the mail or pick up the phone and talk to a friend who you miss, or better still, call your parents. Holding the door for the person behind you and smiling at people you meet along your day does make a difference. See how many people you can touch with your heart. And see how giving that love freely, without a single expectation transforms your day, week, your life. The best part is that they will be touched by your kindness and they will most likely pass the love along to someone else. Love is free, love is easy and we all need more love in our life.
So, I send you much love today and hope that you will Bee my Valentine.
I was setting up for an event the other day when it struck me that we somehow think we have to do everything ourselves and that we are weak if we ask for help. This couldn't be further from the truth. I watched a lady struggle at moving a bench by herself. I went over to her and offered a hand. "No, I have it" she said. She was quick to refuse my help. After she had struggled and returned huffing and puffing she beamed, "see I don't need any help" Meanwhile if she had allowed me to take one end or even if she had asked for help in the first place, it would have taken less time and she would not have been out of breath.
When I was a kid I often heard the saying, many hands make light work. It was usually when we had been to my grandparents for dinner and a tea towel was being thrown in my direction. It was my invitation to pitch in. As a family we all would help out at family dinners. Someone would set the table, someone else might be peeling the carrots and potatoes, others would help in the washing up and putting the dishes away. Many hands make light work. Everyone helped out and lightened the load.
At some point we as a society decided that if someone needed to be helped they were weak. So in order to be perceived as strong, we need to do everything ourselves. And in this dog eat dog world, if you want to play with the big boys you must be strong and self sufficient. The problem with that is we are not here to be insular. We are here to help each other along our individual paths. We are all part of something greater and we need to support each other, whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Actually, a strong person is the one who realizes that they can not do everything and seeks out those who can help. It makes sense since we all have different talents or abilities that we can't be good at everything and need others to help us along our journey.
When we work together we are connecting with one another. When I offer to help someone I am opening my heart and offering a connection. But when we refuse that connection, that help, we are closing our self off and refusing that person. For example, I have heard many women say they don't want their husband or partner to clean the kitchen or help make dinner because he does it wrong. Well, it many not be wrong, but it is not the way she wants it done. But what really is at play here is that he wants to help, to support her and to connect with her. When she says no, she is says no to that connection. It really does not matter how the onions are chopped in the grander scheme of things, what matters is that we open our hearts, connect and support each other. Daily we are disconnecting from each other because of technology, distance and the speed at which we believe we have to live our lives. We are small fragments of something much bigger than us, and we spend our life looking for those other fragments, our other half or the members of our Soul family to connect with. So while we each have our own path to walk, we still need to be strong and recognize when we need help and ask for that support. Every time we connect with each other we become stronger. We are not here to struggle by ourselves and there are times when we need help carrying the load we have. So be strong, ask for help and connect.
Last night I was at an amazing event and had the opportunity to meet some wonderful business women. And naturally, when you are at these events meeting other business people, the age old question comes up, "So what do you do?" How do we answer that question? How truthful are we? Do we give them a easy superficial answer or are we truthful and give them something deeper and more complicated that can lead to meaningful connections with each other and our self.
Many years ago when I was a consultant for a popular kitchen product company we talked about our 30 second commercial, it was our answer to "so what do you do?" The concept was that you could creatively answer that question in a mere 30 seconds ....... and, for me, sound like all those infomercials on TV. I never particularly cared for this approach. I really don't have a neat and tidy answer for that question. My answer is often, "well, I do many things"...and then I proceed to rhyme off the many hats I wear. What I really want to say is, "I hold space for my clients on their healing journey"....but seriously, no one knows how to respond to that. It would likely be a wide eyed Oooooo as they look for a way to get out of the conversation. People want a tidy, easy to understand answer that doesn't make them feel awkward. So now I say, "I am a Reiki Master and I use art and dance as part of my healing methods." This gives the person who has asked the question a more accessible answer and leaves room for them to dive deeper into who and what I am about with further questions.
Let's face it, regardless of how much we try to not to be judgey... we do judge each other in those very few seconds we meet new people. That is reality. We are judging that first impression we get of each other. Interestingly though, that judgement is actually a mirror of our self and not about the other person at all, but we can talk about that another time.
I have also heard it suggested that instead of asking "what do you do?" we should ask people "what do you love to do?" This is great. It allows us to easily talk about our self and what we are passionate about in our life. Many women find it challenging to talk about themselves, they will easily tell you about their children's many achievements, but find it hard to boast about their own. But ask about the thing that they love to do and you can tap into who they are truly. Their answer may surprise them as they may never have been asked this very question.
The choice is simple. Do you ask a question that is looking for a simple, neat and tidy answer? Or do you ask a question that can lead to a connection with the other person. I vote for making connections. Meaningful, honest connections are what we are here for, so let's ask the questions, let's dive deep, let's reveal our true self.
"So what do you love to do?"
I realize this is going to sound at little out there, but I can send Reiki Healing Energy anywhere in the world. Time and distance are an illusion. Reiki Healing Energy can be received in person or at a distance.
Here are a few questions you might have about Distance Healing. Message me to book your session or if you have any other questions.
What happens during a Reiki Distance Healing session?
Together we will agree upon a time when I will conduct your session. At the prescribed time I will call in the Reiki Healing Energy to myself and then just as in a hands on session, I will share the energy with you, the receiver. I am supported by my Reiki Guides who help me send the energy. I will send Reiki on a physical, emotional and spiritual level. So if your problem is stress related, Reiki Distance Healing will be channeled towards easing your stress. Your body will absorb as much or as little Reiki as you need at that particular time. Throughout the session I relax and visualize on transferring the energy from me to the receiver.
Will I feel anything during a Reiki Distance Healing Session?
There are no set rules – each person reacts differently to the next and each treatment may differ from the previous. On some occasions you may sense that parts of your body feel warm, even hot. The energy is penetrating and helping this part of your body. Sometimes parts of your body might feel cold instead. If you are suffering from an inflammation this can be the energy's way of cooling you down. You may even feel some slight tingling. However, don’t be alarmed if you feel absolutely nothing – this does not mean that Reiki energy isn’t being received by you or that in some way you have failed. The healing energy is always received. I have had numerous clients feel a complete sense of relaxation and fall asleep during hands on sessions.
How do I prepare to receive Reiki Distance Healing?
One of the real benefits of receiving Reiki Distance Healing is that you have no need to stop what you are doing. You just carry on as normal in the knowledge that Reiki energies will be sent. You can however choose to take time to lay down or relax during our agreed upon time of your session.
Are there any after affects?
Reiki is a perfectly safe, non-invasive and gentle healing method. However, because Reiki helps to remove toxins from the body you may experience what is sometimes known as the 'healing crisis' as your body starts to detoxify. This could be a mild cases of sickness, headache, slight nausea or light headiness. You may feel a little dehydrated so drink plenty of water.
Can I only book Reiki Distance Healing for myself?
No, you can book for yourself, your pets, or other people. I do however need permission from the recipient to send them Reiki Healing Energy. You can book any combination of sessions to suit your needs.
Email me now to book your session.
Gratitude seems to be a buzz word lately. We all keep hearing that we need to be more grateful. If you want to be more present, you need gratitude. If you want abundance, you need gratitude. If you want to manifest the life you want, you need gratitude. Great! But, what does that mean???? Honestly, it is the thing that I too have been working on. I have been making my list, day in and day out in my journal, of all the reasons I should feel gratitude. And yet I, like so many of you, have found it has not been resonating with me.
But that changed last week. Let me tell you about an experience I recently had at the grocery store of all places. It is summer, and for me there is nothing that says summer more than corn on the cob. Needless to say we have been having sweet corn several times a week now that the corn has started to appear at farmer's markets and in the grocery stores. One day last week I stopped in at a local grocery store for a few things I needed for our dinner and saw a big display of fresh corn. I was on one side of the display, and opposite me were a couple ladies who were selecting their corn. Of course they were opening the corn, pulling the leaves and silk back to make sure they were getting good cobs. It was evident early on that only the BEST cobs were going to make the cut. Actually, it wasn't that they were being selective. I am surprised after listening to their conversation that they ended up purchasing any corn at all. They never stopped complaining about the quality of the corn the whole time they were there. It was too small, the kernels were too big, it probably was no good, we have had too much rain, there hasn't been enough heat....and on and on they complained. All I could think of was how grateful I was that I had money to buy good food and that I had stores to choose from to buy my food. There are people in this world who don't have the variety and choice that we have. All I wanted to feel was gratitude so that I could counter the negative energy coming at me from across the corn bin. I finished selecting my corn and headed to a cashier to pay for my food. I left the store feeling my heart swelling with gratitude for what I had.
Maybe you are thinking that that is kind of simple. What is the big deal? The corn didn't cost me much, but as I listened to the two across from me I quickly understood I did not want to be them. I didn't want to be the person who finds fault with everything in life. I had decided in that moment to look at life from a different perspective. When I look at life from a position of gratitude, my day is brighter and everything changes. When we are grateful we find simple pleasure in the abundance that is our life. The gift of gratitude is that all the superficial things that you think are important fall away and the things that really matter in life rise to the top. Life becomes more peaceful when we live in gratitude. Life becomes more abundant and joyful when viewed from the position of gratitude.
And by the way, our corn was so sweet that evening!